Have you ever been let down by someone you admired?Have you put someone on the pedestal only to find that they are human, and had the ability to struggle just like the rest of us? We can often develop fanciful ideas of someone’s personality and idealise their behaviours. We have all heard stories of people meeting celebrities that they were fans of only to be let down or even devastated by their behaviour towards them.As humans subject to the constructed society around us we are taught that most everyone is in a better place than arse. That comparatively they have their shit together. When that illusion is dissolved in front of us we can often feel betrayed and deceived by that person. When in truth we have only been deceived by ourselves, we have decided how a person is and how they behave based purely on our own judgement, while not knowing this person in any real way.For us this often leads to feelings of further decreased self-worth while at the same time a resentment towards those that we had built-up in our mind. It’s important to recognise that just like us those around us also have their own floors, faults and shortcomings. But it is also up to us to accept them and include those things in our perception of them. Nobody is a 10 out of 10, those that have convinced themselves that they are are only presenting a false image to themselves and those around them.We have to learn to embrace our own faults and the faults of others, removing judgement when we discovered them.A persons identity is not what they think they are, nor what we think we are, their true identity is what they think we think they are. Just as our own identity is based in what we think others think of us.What is your identity?